At this point I have been a coach for almost 14 months and I could honestly write a book on all the excuses I have received. Listen, I want to say right up front, I get it. I have used all the excuses for years. When it comes to coaching, I really can't help you until you are done using excuses.
Here is what I think when you use certain excuses:
I just don't have the time, I work and have kids. Answer: I work and have kids too. My kids play sports all year round, we don't have any breaks at any point. My husband travels for work, works full time, goes to school at Penn State, is currently doing an internship, he also coaches football, is the VP of the youth football program, is on the sports boosters for high school and he needs my support all the time. We are busy, but that is no excuse. I have single parents, that work full-time and have children in my group doing this with no support and they are making the time every single day.
My kids and husband come first. Answer: I understand this, I have put my children and husband before myself for years, 12 to be exact. No good ever came from that, it left me feeling like I wasn't that important, stressed and worn out. We have to make time for ourselves, we are just as important.
My family is very picky eaters, I just can't get them on board. So eating healthier just doesn't seem like an option for us right now. Answer: Hault! We all need to start making eating healthier a priority, so what if its in baby steps, start today and little by little the small changes that you impliment will add up. In fact when you start off slow and ease your family into this process, they tend not to notice. I grocery shop, make all the meals and pack lunches. We create picky eaters. When all your child will eat is McDonalds, well thats no ones fault but yours. You are in charge and it is up to you to make sure your family is healthy. If you have to simply sit them down and tell them things are changing and this is how things are going to be from now on, then do so. Tell them why you believe this is important. Include them in meal prepping if they are old enough, this will help encourage them to try what they have made. If they older, watch documentaries like "Fed Up". This helped open my children open their eyes to food in America and why I have made the choices for our family like I have.
If I worked from home like you, I would have all the free time to work out too. Answer: Just because I work at home doesn't mean I have a ton of free time. It means I have to be useful of the time I have, to get my work done and have all my household tasks staring at me in the face every moment. I worked outside of the home for 12 years, I know how hard it is to balance it all and it's the same when you work from home. It's just less commute time. My job also requires me to workout. I would say it's a definite perk when your job requires you to workout daily, eat healthy and read personal development on a daily basis. Most jobs do not care if you are taking good care of yourself. Everyone has 30 minutes, if don't then you wake up 30 minutes earlier prior to getting ready for work.
There is nothing motivating me to want this, but I know I should want this. Answer: With all the people that have illnesses and diseases around us caused by not eating healthy foods and not taking care of our bodies, why does that not motivate you? The only way to stop this trend, is to change our habits. To stop filling our bodies with processed foods and sugar laden drinks. If you have your health currently, do not take it for granted. If you are not healthy, make the changes now to help your situation improve.
I can not afford to be healthy. Answer: You can afford cable, internet, movie tickets, that new iPhone 6, that designer hand bag, the dinners out, take out food on a weekly basis, morning coffee runs, concert tickets, alcohol, and everything else that does nothing for your health and well being????? Why do we think it's okay to spend our money on all the above items, but not our health? Our health & well being needs to take priority, over everything. Without our health, what do you really have. You can't afford it? I am telling you right now to find a way, because dealing with an illness will cost you a lot more, then getting healthy will.
I could go on and on, I know it seems like I may be harsh, but the truth is....it's the darn truth. We are all given one body and yes some of us have illnesses or diseases, but poor nutrition will not help any of us.
My husband does not accept excuses and honestly that has made me a better person. Please do not contact me and tell you need me to help you, but you are not willing to help yourself first. I wish I could create miracles or wave a magic wand to help you change your ways or your thinking process, but I can't. I want to truly help as many people as I can and I can do that once you drop your excuses.
Get out of your own way, leave your excuses behind you and change right this second. You can do this and I will help hold you accountable!